Rejection / Perseverance
Artists have�frequently asked�me, how does one go about getting accepted by a�gallery?� That’s a complex question, to which there is no easy answer.� In fact�it’s similar to asking how an unpublished writer goes about getting published.� My first answer in either instance?� Prepare for rejection.� So before we even begin to get into the business of gaining gallery representation, let’s discuss�this common experience.��
I feel�it�s best, as your career travels�its twisting course,�if you acknowledge that your work will probably be rejected several times initially, and that finding the right gallery will be no simple task.� Therefore, let me give you one piece of advice about rejection: get used to it.� Let me also give you another: determine to persevere beyond it, no matter what.
Perseverance is the quality that enables you to handle rejection after rejection, then more rejection, then further rejection, then perhaps a few more years of rejection after that, and still snap back.� I�m not saying that those rejections shouldn�t depress or anger you, or at times make you want to abandon the whole bloody business.� They should, and will.� But you�ll have to persevere nonetheless�that is, if you want to succeed.�
You�re the one creating the work.� You�re the one who has to believe in yourself.� You�re the one who has to know whether your work is any good.� If you do know this, and are certain of your artistic destiny, then no amount of being turned away should make any difference.� Sure, you may punch a few holes in some walls before it�s over, but after the dust has settled, and you�ve mended your knuckles, go back out and make the approach again.� And again and again.� And again.
Don�t get desperate.� Don�t give in to despair.� Listen to your inner voice, the one that has assured you about your work, and your place in the world, since the day you first began to create.� Voices like that rarely lie (which isn�t to say that we don�t on occasion misinterpret them).� Listen to the reassurance it gives you, assuming it does.�
As you listen, and as you prepare to send your work out once more, try to employ resiliency, combined with stubbornness, mellowed with humor, strengthened with discipline, bound with humility.� And hell, enjoy yourself while you�re at it.� You�re alive, you�re free to create, you�re work is maturing.� If you learn to take the rejections well, you�ll gain strength and character from them.� In time, this can lead to one formidable artist, and career.� Decide that it will, and that the day is coming when the galleries will be happy to work with you.� People respond well to confidence�which should never be confused with arrogance.
Determine that the rejections will help build these things up in you; they can, if you decide to take them that way.� They can also destroy you, if you let them.� Don�t.� In the end, the only person who truly has the power to destroy you, is you.� That�s a tough one to remember, and a tougher one to practice, but from everything I�ve seen in the world, I believe it to be essentially true.
As for gallery acceptance, we’ll get to that�in a later Friday Tips.��